I’m back again! Time sure flies…Elijah’s turning a month old next week. It’s scary realising how time just whizz by.
Friends have been asking how things have been with the new addition to the family. I’ve been coping by…really, just coping by. There are good moments and bad ones. While I see moms posting smiling faces of their preschooler and the newborn on Facebook, reading the loving things the older sibling does for the younger one. I’m experiencing the complete opposite.
Managing Hannah has been a roller-coaster ride. She could be hugging her brother one moment, the next she’s demanding me to kiss her “ouchie” now as I try to comfort the baby. I feel as if I’m fire-fighting throughout the day, rather than being control of each moment.
I wonder how the other moms do it? I’ve read countless articles on easing the new sibling transition but I’ve not been able to put them into practice (not when the baby is crying for milk and the older one is whining for attention).
People have told me to tend to the older one first but I just can’t hear Elijah’s wailing…I’ve tried. Some said that we should ask the older sibling what we should do if the baby’s crying (the ideal response from the child is to carry the baby). Sometimes the answer is, “Nothing. Mama, just play with me.”
There are, of course, good times when Hannah plays the big sister. She reads to her brother, sings to him, helps wash him up. This is one of those good times. It’s not easy to capture a picture when both are happy. One is usually irritable and fussy, the other sulky or teary.
By evening, I’m exhausted! Bedtime is a challenge. Hannah’s always try to delay her bedtime routine, and I can’t get the baby to drink properly without dozing off on my boob. To friends who posted lovely pictures of their kids smiling in bed, please enlighten me on what I’m doing wrong.
Oh, and let’s not talk about the condition of the house…or the amount of dust bunnies under the bed.
As I sign off to clear that vomit on the floor, I’d welcome any help and tips! 😉