When I chanced upon a Facebook newsfeed, “Teach your child not to interrupt in one simple step” by An Everyday Story, the first thought in my mind was, “Can this really be done in one simple step?” It sounds too good to be true. So skeptical me shared the link and showed interest in testing it out. Minutes after posting on my Facebook, some mommy friends vouched its effectiveness.
Two weeks ago, I shared with Hannah that being respectful means allowing others to finish their conversation. I acknowledged that it’s not easy to hold it in when she’s excited to share her thoughts.
I went on to explain that if she wants to talk when I’m in a conversation with someone, she has to place her hand on my wrist and wait. I would place my other hand over hers to acknowledge her wait, and turn to her when ready.
Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around.
– Henry David Thoreau-
Here’s my report two weeks later – we have had good results! With the implementation of this method, Hannah is less temperamental as she knows that I hear her, and she’s waiting in line. Previously, she might kick a fuss with words like, “Mama, I want to talk to you…” or “Mama, listen to me please…”
In return, I’ve also used this method when I want to talk to Hannah, and she’s busy talking to Daddy or to her dolls. Why you might ask?
While reading the book, “When You Say ‘Thank You’, Mean It” by Mary O’Donohue, it had me thinking of my response vs. my expected response of her.
It is essential to set an example for the child, both by how the adult treats the child and others around them.
– When You Say ‘Thank You’, Mean It-
Morals and values are often caught not taught.
What other methods do you use to teach manners and values?
P/s: I highly recommend “When You Say ‘Thank You’, Mean It” by Mary O’Donohue to families who wish to guide their children with lifelong values. The book provides a monthly guide with simple exercises for each value (e.g.. gratitude, self-respect, compassion…) that parents could implement within the family.
You might also like to read my other post: Helping your child bond with others